41 yr old, 5'3", Childfree Female from Black Hawk, United States
Occupation: Entrepreneur and Project Manager
Not open to long distance!
Looking For: Male
Smoking: No
Drinking: Once in a while
Pets: I can tolerate some pets
Education: High School
Tubes Tied / Vasectomy: No
Below is Karissa's handwritten answer to the, "Tell us a little bit about you", survey question.
I’m looking for a man who lives with purpose, is grounded in mountain life, values depth and integrity, and embodies conscious masculine energy. Wonder what I mean? This article captures the kind of man I’m looking for better than I ever could. If you read it and think, “Yes-that’s me,” we should probably talk. ? https://fysfee.ghost.io/strong-men-create-safe-relationships-not-loud-ones/ I’m drawn to men who lead with steadiness, emotional regulation, and integrity - not performance or dominance for show. Safety, consistency, and presence matter more to me than volume or bravado. Reading this will give you a clear sense of how I think about partnership and masculine energy. I’m looking for a man who already has a life he loves, but knows it’s missing someone to share it with. Someone open to building a shared life - porch coffee at sunrise, mountain drives with playlists and quiet laughter, volunteering locally, and exploring both the stillness of the pines and the energy of the city once in a while. I moved back to the Colorado mountains June 1st, after 32 years away. In the summer I wake up to hummingbirds at the window, sunlight warming my skin, the scent of roasting pine needles, and wind whispering through pine and aspen trees. This land is part of my soul. I’m finally home and ready to put down my roots with a partner. --- ? Who I Am I'm grounded, intuitive, growth-minded, caring and a little bit nerdy - in the best way. I’ve spent years doing deep work with therapists and my own - healing, integrating, growing - and I’m still on the path. Every relationship is a mirror and a chance to evolve. I’m clear on what I’m calling in. And just as clear on what no longer has space: ambiguity, avoidance, or performative masculinity. I'm the kind of woman who thrives in mountain stillness, but also lights up around meaningful conversation and shared laughter. I love panoramic views, deep dives (into both ideas and emotions), and anything that feels intentionally created. I am… ✨ Childfree by choice ✨ Neurospicy (ADHD + Autism) ✨ Tech entrepreneur for 20+ years ✨ Obsessed with purple, crystals, and personal evolution I’ve done deep healing work over the years. I value integrity, emotional safety, and shared laughter. I’m not here for performance or pretense. I’m here for depth, partnership, and something truly real. ? I love... ✨ Mountain drives exploring with deep conversations or in comfortable silence. ✨ Coffee in the morning, 40 Winks loose leaf tea before bed, and occasionally end the day with a Mediterranean Gin & Tonic. ✨ Cozy nights snuggling on the couch getting me introduced to the must-watch movies I’ve missed. ✨ Hiking and slowly checking off the “typical Colorado stuff” like fishing, prospecting, and eventually climbing a 14er. ✨ Staying up late at night and getting up late. ✨ Technology, entrepreneurship and organizing things. ✨ Playing Bar Darts - I have my own set of purple soft and steel-tip darts. ? What I’m Attracted To ✨ A man who’s also done his inner work and stays committed to growth - who sees relationship as a space for truth, tenderness, and transformation. ✨ Emotionally intelligent and steady, growth-minded and self-aware ✨ Embodied masculinity - confident, calm, grounded, not performative. Grounded BDE, not grandstanding. ✨ Steady in his emotions, sharp in his mind - doesn’t weaponize feelings or retreat into silence. ✨ Groomed with care - clean-cut or intentionally styled. Strong arms are a plus. ✨ Close to my height (5'3") because hugs are easier, but not required. ✨ Nerds/Geeks into table top games and D&D. ✨ Coders, developers, or other web designers. ✨ Entrepreneurs who are not owned by their business. If you carry yourself with quiet integrity, can laugh and tear up at the right moments, and understand that intimacy is nurtured all day long - we might genuinely click. ? My Vision for Us ✨ We live in the mountains, love our home, and are proud of the life we’ve built. ✨ Morning coffee on the porch before we each dive into our day. ✨ Hiking, off-roading, or trying our hand at gardening on weekends. ✨ Volunteering locally, being known and trusted by our neighbors. ✨ Time apart with guy/girl friends and shared adventures with couple friends. ✨ Cuddled up on the couch watching shows we’ve been meaning to catch up on. ✨ Shared intimacy that’s emotionally connected and physically alive, not just convenient. ? I highly desire someone... ✨ Who feels their life is complete without children. ✨ Who doesn't smoke, chew, vape or need 420 daily. ✨ Who values emotional exclusivity once feelings are present. I don’t stay close with exes, and I’m not compatible with partners who do. ✨ Ready for a long term committed monogamous relationship, leading to marriage. I tried ENM/swinging for several years and found it's not for me. Time is finante and I want/need all of my partner's sexual energy. Which usually is hard to keep up with, which leads me to … ✨ Proactive about the effects of aging, especially testosterone decline that is now starting in men's 30s. ✨ Who has a high libido that, even after the new-relationship energy wears off, still wants to be intimate 2-3 times a week and is open to exploring tantra and keeping the spark alive. And two delicate desires: ✨ Someone on the ahm… larger ? side, because due to things beyond my control, I’ve learned what actually works best with my body. It’s not just preference, it’s compatibility. ✨ Someone who has HSV2 or is open to the risk with clarity, medication and care, for a relationship that will last the rest of life. ? Politics, Spirituality & Personality Politics: I know a relationship can work across political lines, but I’ve also lived through the friction that happens when values are too far apart. I lean moderate-right and vote Republican partly - because I’m pro-life and value entrepreneurship, individual liberty, and personal responsibility. But what matters more to me is emotional regulation and respect for nuance. We’ve become so reactive that people stop listening at the first buzzword. I care more about how you handle disagreement than which party you vote for. I don’t need someone who matches me exactly but we must respect each other’s values. Spirituality: I was raised Christian but don’t consider myself religious now - more spiritual, with a healthy dose of discernment. I don’t subscribe to the culty version of Law of Attraction - but I’ve lived enough magic to trust that aligned action + timing really does work. I move with purpose, stay open, and listen when the universe whispers “this way”- especially when it shows up in a purple hue. Personality: I’m a Splenic Projector, ISTJ plus everything else on the ‘Profiles’ tab. ? If You’re Still Reading… Thank you. I want something real. With a man who owns his shadows, leads with depth, and walks beside me - not ahead or behind. If what I’ve written resonates with you, send an email to karissa.dating@gmail.com ? with what stood out. Let’s see if our paths were meant to cross and explore what we could build together… I love starting with a quick video or phone call within the first day after we match. It lets us feel the ease and chemistry that texting cannot show.
Perhaps the most important question to CFdating's profile survey, below is Karissa's answer to why they choose to be childfree.
I can't stand most kids! The screaming and constant dependence... Went on a 5 hour ride around San Francisco in a Tesla with my sister and the lady that she nannied their son since a baby for 2 years. He's now 6. She also had young baby which was scared of me in the back seat and cried basically the whole time. Then the 6 year old was banging, tapping and talking non-stop. I was in sound overload! Gave me a headache that added to the motion sickness the EV gave me.
Finally, would Karissa have or want kids down the road? Below is how they answered this critical question.
No never, and don't want a partner that has them - even grown... That's why I'm on a site like this ... Seems like an odd question.
